Learning to Relax

Sounds simple, right?

I am discovering it is not so much.

One of my biggest challenges in latin right now is allowing myself to relax and let my hips move. Of course, ‘relax’ is a relative term.

I have some new latin exercises, and while I was doing one of them I noticed that I was constantly fighting against allowing my hips to move. In fact, I realized further that I wasn’t really sure when my hips were supposed to be moving and in what timing. I did a little experiment and discovered that when it comes to movements changing direction I either settled on my hip directly, or didn’t settle at all–especially going forward and back.

So now I have a new exercise specific to moving forward, back and to the side with full hip movements. I am still not sure what I am supposed to be doing when I move forward, and I am pretty sure the back movement is a little on the sketchy (meaning bent leg) side, but for now I have to just keep doing it and work against the instinct to stay rigid and controlled (meaning not move).

It’s a battle I am finding in all my latin exercises right now.

I have a new favourite step….NOT!! But I am really am trying to make it one. On my request (yep, I asked for this), I am working on voltas in samba. I am at the stage where either my body moves, or my timing is right. Both don’t happen together yet. It took me two practices just to figure out a good way to work on them, and to convince myself that doing them slowly every time is not going to help that I stop moving my body when my feet move faster.

I am almost trying too hard to make movements happen instead of relaxing and letting them happen.

But, knowing is half the battle.

One area where I am too relaxed is my eyes. I am still dropping them or not raising them at all when I work on latin. My ‘deep concentration’ mode involves staring without focus at the floor, or my feet in the mirror. There are so many layers to this issue, it is going to have to be an entire other blog post.

My one victory this week is that finally, yesterday, I was doing some of my dance exercises and I felt it! My inner thighs started working and engaging! It’s taken more than two weeks of trying and trying to get them to activate in even one exercise. And slowly the work seems to be spreading.

Lessons are going well. Slowly, we are developing exercises, and just over 15 minutes of each lesson is spent on cardio conditioning which I need both for dance and general fitness. Depending on whether it is a standard or latin day, I do 1:30 of an exercise (change steps in waltz, a sequence in samba) full out as much as I can. Then we check my pulse, and time the recovery. When it reaches ‘pre-work’ level, I do it again. Essentially, dance interval training.

With the progress I am seeing now, I hope I don’t take too much of a step back with the break following the surgery next week. It’s a fairly simple surgery, with a (relatively) short recovery and I hope to be back at it again soon. 2 more lessons before then, although I am not sure the up-coming surgery is going to help much with letting myself relax.

I think I will need to explore more in the future the barriers preventing me from fully letting go and risking performing a wrong movement.

In the end, it is about risking relaxation.

How messed up is that?

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